A Homosexual’s Open Letter To The Church

Here We Go Again!

Editor’s Note: This is the first time I have ever printed anything from an anonymous source. My decades in journalism taught me that if someone won’t admit publicly to what the say, they will not see their words in print. It’s called attribution. Having said that, the information in this letter deserves every church-goers’ thoughtful consideration. The letter appeared on the blog, Between Two Worlds. on  The letter appears to be from a lesbian who is struggling with her sin and seeking freedom from it in her relationship with Jesus Christ. It does not appear to be from a homosexual who flaunts their sin, embraces their sinful lifestyle and has no plans of ever being free.

Here are some things I think we as authentic followers of Jesus need to consider as we read her words: Is this person who is struggling with her sin any different from a believer struggling to be free of addiction to pornography or alcohol or drugs? Is this person’s struggle to be free from her sin any different from a believer struggling to be free from adultery or lying or stealing? Is this woman’s sin any different from a believer who is struggling to be free from any sinful stronghold? In my opinion our answers will reveal tons about our own relationship with Jesus Christ.  

To the churches concerning homosexuals and lesbians:

Many of you believe that we do not exist within your walls, your schools, your neighborhoods. You believe that we are few and easily recognized. I tell you we are many. We are your teachers, doctors, accountants, high school athletes. We are all colors, shapes, sizes. We are single, married, mothers, fathers. We are your sons, your daughters, your nieces, your nephews, your grandchildren. We are in your Sunday School classes, pews, choirs, and pulpits. You choose not to see us out of ignorance or because it might upset your congregation. We ARE your congregation. We enter your doors weekly seeking guidance and some glimmer of hope that we can change. Like you, we have invited Jesus into our hearts. Like you, we want to be all that Christ wants us to be. Like you, we pray daily for guidance. Like you, we often fail.

When the word “homosexual” is mentioned in the church, we hold our breaths and sit in fear. Most often this word is followed with condemnation, laughter, hatred, or jokes. Rarely do we hear any words of hope. At least we recognize our sin. Does the church as a whole see theirs? Do you see the sin of pride, that you are better than or more acceptable to Jesus than we are? Have you been Christ-like in your relationships with us? Would you meet us at the well, or restaurant, for a cup of water, or coffee? Would you touch us even if we showed signs of leprosy, or aids? Would you call us down from our trees, as Christ did Zacchaeus, and invite yourself to be our guest? Would you allow us to sit at your table and break bread? Can you love us unconditionally and support us as Christ works in our lives, as He works in yours, to help us all to overcome?

To those of you who would change the church to accept the gay community and its lifestyle: you give us no hope at all. To those of us who know God’s word and will not dilute it to fit our desires, we ask you to read John’s letter to the church in Pergamum. “I have a few things against you: You have people there who hold to the teaching of Balaam, who taught Balak to entice the Israelites to sin by eating food sacrificed to idols and by committing sexual immorality. Likewise, you also have those who hold to the teaching of the Nicolaitans. Repent therefore!” You are willing to compromise the word of God to be politically correct. We are not deceived. If we accept your willingness to compromise, then we must also compromise. We must therefore accept your lying, your adultery, your lust, your idolatry, your addictions, YOUR sins. “He who has an ear, let him hear what the Spirit says to the churches.”

We do not ask for your acceptance of our sins any more than we accept yours. We simply ask for the same support, love, guidance, and most of all hope that is given to the rest of your congregation. We are your brothers and sisters in Christ. We are not what we shall be, but thank God, we are not what we were. Let us work together to see that we all arrive safely home.

A Sister in Christ

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17 thoughts on “A Homosexual’s Open Letter To The Church

  1. I know some churches have not been particularly accepting of homosexuals as sinners no different than all of us are, but in the churches I have attended over the last 25 churches, the congregations have not seen homosexuals as being any different from anyone else who is struggling with sin. I’ve seen a host of ministries to homosexuals birthed over the years, and some, like David Kyle Foster of Mastering Life Ministries and Andy Comiskey of Desert Streams, have become international in their scope and have provided homosexuals excellent resources in the Holy Spirit for getting free. I think many churches are growing in maturity regarding this issue and are learning how to use the healing tools Jesus has provided for us. I felt sad as I read this letter that apparently there are still many churches who have not grown in love to the point of being the solution rather than the problem. I find the complaints in the letter balanced accurately with the gospel and should be taken seriously in any church that desires to fulfill the mandate of Jesus to make disciples of all nations.


    1. Thank you for your thoughtful, Scriptural response. The sad part to me is there are still far too many church goers who look at homosexual sin as somehow different, or worse, than their own.


  2. Great letter and I am glad you shared it. I do not condemn the sinner, I condemn the sin. Just as I would any sin such as addiction, adultery, coveting, dishonor, etc. The sinner needs love, prayer, and help. As long as they recognize it as a sin, they can be redeemed.


  3. Being a homosexual isn’t really sin. Putting the disposition into practice is. The word in Koine that is translated as “homosexual” is “ἀρσενοκοῖται” which literally means “men who lay in bed with other men”, has no reference whatsoever to the disposition.


  4. Revealing words Steven. I greatly appreciate the author’s stance of a desire for acceptance, not for her sin, but for her. The little throw-in of “meet me at the well” is convicting, because in reality, Jesus would have. We most definitely would have heard the words, “Go and sin no more,” but none the less, He would approach her with love and compassion, not ridicule and judgmental hatred. Good thoughts friend.


  5. Christians who recoil from homosexuality as a sin that is more abhorrent than adultery should think if Christ held this distinction. In the above letter, change “homosexuality” to “adultery” – would your reading of the letter be different? Finally, remember what Christ said constitutes adultery in your heart. All sexual consummation (real or imagined) outside of marriage is sin. If you are guilty of that and struggle with that, even as you continue to attend church, consider how your should treat others as you would want to be treated.


  6. Well said!! There’s not a lick of difference between struggling with the sin of homosexuality or struggling with any other besetting sin. It’s all sin and it was all paid for at the cross.

    1Co 6:11 And such were some of you: but ye are washed, but ye are sanctified, but ye are justified in the name of the Lord Jesus, and by the Spirit of our God.


    1. Amen, Scott. Great verse. Thanks for your thoughtful comments and your encouragement. Coming from you means a lot to me. Seriously. God bless.


  7. Powerful message! I love that she said not to compromise God’s Word to accept sin. We need to stand together and help each other out of sin, not label one greater than another. Thanks for sharing!


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