Every time I write about a sensitive or controversial topic, such as abortion, homosexuality, gay marriage, or child abuse and such I get the most reaction.
When I published A Letter To A Mother Considering An Abortion that Bryan Daniels published on his blog, I received the following comments:
BTW You really must read the letter to understand this reply and my response. So please read it first.
What the letter writer sees as sensitive words, the woman facing the choice may see as a painful intrusion? As people we offer advise and platitudes too easily, we say things like “I know what you are going through” when really we have no clue what someone else is going through! We are judging their ability to make OUR choice based on our circumstances and perception of the world. The woman facing this terrible choice may not have the same access to medical care for a disabled child as the letter writer? I would like a world where no woman has to have a termination but I would also like that world to have no hunger, war, domestic violence, child abuse, crime… as humans and christians our role is to support people in the choices that their lives dictate that they must make, not pressure them to make OUR choices. Too often I hear and read christians saying things “in love” using scriptures to support their point of view when really all they are doing is telling someone else how to live their life without first making sure that they are living a perfect life themselves!
I am not trying to be an “anti christian troll” I just want people to think before they do things that cast judgement on others, especially vulnerable people as all that judgement is bullying.
And this was my response:
Thank you for your thoughtful response. You are right. The woman making the choice might see the letter as a painful intrusion. But, I think we both have to agree that the woman facing the choice might also see the letter as a compassionate response from another woman who went through a similar decision process. Since both women were advised to terminate their pregnancies the letter writer does, in fact, understand to a large extent (much more than you or me) what the woman considering an abortion is going through.
I don’t see the letter writer as judging at all the woman facing the choice. I see her as a concerned, loving and compassionate person sharing her testimony about the decision she made to carry her pregnancies to term. And from her letter, it seems as though her choice is bearing fruit. The letter writer also shared some of the trials their family goes through, and will continue going through, but relates that they are grateful they made the decision to have their children when doctors advised against it.
When you said, “Too often I hear and read christians saying things “in love” using scriptures to support their point of view when really all they are doing is telling someone else how to live their life without first making sure that they are living a perfect life themselves,” that sounds to me as if you are being the one judging the letter writer. And I did not see the letter writer “quoting scripture” anywhere. I did not see her offering advice and platitudes, as you suggest “people” do. I did not see anywhere in her letter where she was telling the woman making the choice how to live her life.
And I CERTAINLY did not see anything in her letter that I would characterize as bullying. I’m shaking my head on that one, wondering where it came from. BTW, I’m sorry, but this statement is patently false and does not align with Scripture in any way, shape or form: “as humans and christians our role is to support people in the choices that their lives dictate that they must make,”.I wish I had time and space to show you why, but I don’t in this post.
From your reply it seems that you consider abortion okay in some cases, maybe like rape or incest. If you think like that I would invite you to visit Rebecca Kiessling’s website, Conceived In Rape, Targeted For Abortion to see if that might change your thinking.
Thank you again for your following and your comments. As always comments to my blog posts are welcome, regardless of their content.
I will not, however, publish any comments or post replies that are attacking or targeting another or that contain hurtful or obscene language or references.