Friendship, God, God's Sovereignty, Grace, Truth

BFF’s–Best Friends For . . .awhile

Every girl older than six has a BFF, a Best Friend Forever. The irony of this monicker is the “Forever” part. Young girl BFF relationships may last only a few weeks. Real BFF relationships may last for a month or so, if the friends are really good friends.

I taught a pair of BFF’s in seventh grade. Shannon and Tracy were joined at the hip. When they weren’t hanging out at school together, they were gabbing on the phone for hours after school and at night. They spent nights at each other’s houses. They did homework together. Walked each other to classes. Ignored boys. Hung out at the mall together, skated together, did each other’s hair, told and kept each other’s secrets. Talked alike. Acted alike. Dressed alike. You could wallpaper a two-story house with the notes they wrote each other as BFF’s.

One day Shannon got a boyfriend and her BFF with Tracy was history.

Truth is there’s only one friend who can be a true BFF–best friend forever.


Jesus told His disciples as He was preparing for His final days,

You are my friends if you do what I command you. John 15:14
I have called you friends, for all things that I have heard from My Father I have made known to you.” John 15:15.

And again He said, “And surely I am with you always, even to the end of the age.” Matthew 28:20.

Now the dwelling of God is with men, and he will live with them. They will be his people, and God himself will be with them and be their God. Revelation 21:3b.

The best best friend you could ever make here on earth will never compare with the friendship Jesus offers as your best friend forever. He’s the only friend you’ll ever make who can be your friend forever. Along with Jesus’ friendship comes the abundant life He promises us here on earth and His guarantee of eternal life in heaven.

14 thoughts on “BFF’s–Best Friends For . . .awhile

  1. I agree Jesus is unlike any friend you can’t even compare it to a BFF. πŸ™‚ kind of relationship! Except for He may be the only one who loves us unconditionaly thru all the idiotic relationships we get ourselves in to. But if you’ve read my blog earlier… one of my BBFs has hung on since I was 4 and another since I was 20 and another since I was just a little older than my daughter is now. Along with several other friendships that I have cultivated over the years that I value very much.
    To use female friendships as an example why God is so much better, especially from a male perspective is kind of like asking a rhetorical question. Did you want feedback? THAT was rhetorical. πŸ˜‰
    I feel that life long friendships show a person’s character. Not that people who have a lot of friends for short amounts of time, don’t have character. But it is something to explore. I mean, why are
    those friendships not lasting longer?

    Of course God has loved me through some pretty horrible things in my life recently
    I’m gonna give it. Lol.
    I guess I feel that


    1. That was weird. I was writing this on my phone and it got stuck.
      I guess in a way I know what you were trying to convey.
      God can’t be compared to even the most cherished relationship here on earth. HE is our best friend. More than even the love we have for our children, our spouses, our parents or our BFFs. πŸ™‚
      I just thought instead of comparing it with a seventh grade friendship that failed. You might even do one better by comparing it to a lifelong one that didn’t, because HE is even greater than our BEST relationship that hasn’t failed us.
      Ya know?
      Well, at least you made me think. πŸ™‚


      1. Thank you. The reason I chose those two girls is that the whole BFF thing was so fickle when I was teaching. LIttle 7th graders changed BFF’s like they did clothes and it was so important to them, it was all so silly to me as their teacher watching them running around using the BFF thing. I have one or two of those life long BFF’s whose friendship is invaluable, but, as you said too, earthly and won’t last like our friendship with Jesus.


    2. Excellent reply, Di, I really appreciate your candor. I have a few guys I can count as BFF’s for now. TRUE best friends are rare and very special. You’re blessed to have several and they are invaluable. And I believe you’re right about the character aspect. If someone becomes your friend and remains your friend, they see something in your character, I believe, that draws them to you. Thanks for great comments.


      1. LOL. Who knows what I was going to say… if you note I mentioned that my phone froze so I just pushed send before I lost everything. I like being able to discuss our ideas! The friendship thing is an interesting one! Good post. Did I know you were a teacher? Off to work… have to work tonight! 😦


      2. It’s in my “About Me Really” tab, I think. Have a good night at work. Write when you get time.


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