A sad commentary on the modern church, in my opinion, is the phrase, “God’s in control.” It has become a cliché. We use it as a common response to friends sharing their hearts or their hurts. We utter it confidently when we’re comforting someone who’s just lost a loved one. We comfort those who experience tragedy or trauma in their lives with a compassionate panacea, “God’s in control.”
But in those times when we utter that phrase, is God really in control? Don’t misunderstand me. I KNOW God is in control of everything. I believe that. I live that out…sometimes. Recently I had cause to pause and consider if God really was in control. I had a huge misunderstanding with a loved one. We found ourselves at polar opposites of a monumental decision that required one of us to capitulate. I wanted desperately to give the situation to God, but I chose not to. Rather, I bowed to my stubborn self-will and manipulated some circumstances to impact the outcome.
God was not in control. I took control from Him. God showed me through this quagmire that God can’t be in control if I’m not surrendered to His will. It would mean taking my hands off the situation and allowing Him to work in it. It would require me to purposefully and intentionally relinquish my influence and self-effort.
The only way God can be in control is if we’re not.