I think many believers labor under the misconception that the joy of the Lord means we need to smile and be “fine” all the time. But sadness, grief and mourning are integral parts of God’s purpose for us.
For everything there is a season, and a time for every purpose under heaven: a time to weep, and a time to laugh; a time to mourn, and a time to dance; Ecclesiastes 3:1,4.
Weeping and mourning are not exclusively for the death of loved ones. We can be sad on occasions when life’s burdens weigh us down. Some believers think the “right” thing to do is just grin and bear it. Those who take that route eventually discover it’s the fastest route to burnout and breakdown of our physical, psychological and spiritual reserves.
The best thing we can do is give ourselves permission to be sad, if even for a few moments. To acknowledge our sadness. Feel it. Share our difficulties and pain with a trusted friend or pastor. Better still . . .
Come unto me, all ye that labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, and learn of me; for I am meek and lowly in heart: and ye shall find rest unto your souls. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light. Matthew 11:28-30