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Why do abuse victims ignore the warning signs?

EDITOR’S NOTE: We have allowed abuse to mushroom into a plague on our society. It is as pervasive and devastating as the Black Plague was in Europe in the 14th century. All forms–domestic, child, sexual, verbal, physical, emotional, psychological. Secret Angel, an abuse victim, devotes her blog to helping and encouraging other abuse victims. She blogs to bring heightened awareness to this family and social piranha. I’ve been following Secret Angel for years. I don’t know her name. I don’t need to. But occasionally I want to share her voice to make more people aware of this plague and share the hope and resources Secret Angel makes available to abuse victims on her blog.


By Secret Angel
Blogging at The Abuse Exposé

I saw this quote on and wanted to share it because of the truth in it.


The old saying “been there- done that” is what comes to me. So many of us have ignored the warning signs and given in again and again to abusers as we ignore the “bad” and rationalize it with the “good” or just make excuses for them.  Remember, every time we allow someone to treat us badly, it becomes acceptable and they will do it again. And again. And again. And each time, it just may get worse.

You all deserve to be treated with love, kindness, gentleness, and compassion… along with self-control. (Fruits of the Spirit) Too many of us end up walking on egg shells to avoid “upsetting” our partners.

But we should not have to do that. Watch for the warning signs before and remember, the Bible tells us what to look for.  Matthew 7:17 says that you can tell a tree by the fruit that it produces… and a good tree will not produce bad fruit. So beware of the fruit that you see. If it is not good, please get away from that “tree”.

If you know anyone suffering from any kind of abuse, make them aware of Secret Angel’s blog and all the help and resources for escaping abuse that Secret Angel provides.

Here is a link to her site: The Abuse Exposé with Secret Angel

2 thoughts on “Why do abuse victims ignore the warning signs?

  1. Steven, thank you so much for helping to bring awareness to the many abuses that a multitude of victims suffer from today. Also, thanks for the encouraging words and the support for me and our ministry. God uses all that we go through to help others. He is also making divine connections… and you, my brother, are one. Many, many blessings to you!!


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