I’m not trying to win the approval of people but of God. If pleasing people were my goal, I would not be Christ’s servant. Galatians 1:10
I was a people pleaser for years. And a good one, if I do say so myself. But that’s not a good thing.
I grew up in an alcoholic home so I was automatically predisposed to people pleasing. You see, because of my innate role in my dysfunctional family I wanted everyone to be happy and like me. I despised conflict of any kind. If everyone wasn’t happy I would try doing or saying whatever I thought would make them happy and like me.
Lots of folks drag that people pleasing baggage with them into adulthood.
The root cause of most people pleasing is people’s inability to grasp the meaning of a tiny two-letter, one-syllable English word: NO!
They love to say “Yes”. They fear that if they tell someone who asks them to do something “No”, that person may not like them or be sorely disappointed in them. That would mortify a people pleaser.
If you’re a people pleasure it means that you regard other people’s opinions of you and their wants and needs as more important than your own.
If you put anything or person ahead of God’s important in your life, tat thing or person becomes an idol. It could be a girl, a car, a job, a hobby, a football team, video games, something as inconsequential as a soap opera. Anything or person before God in your life is an idol.
God himself tells Moses in the first of the Ten Commandment, “You shall have no other gods before me. And He follows that up with the second commandment. “You shall not make for yourself an idol. Those are God’s first and second commandments, folks. Not the 5th or 6th. So what do you think God thinks about people pleasing?
Why not take a few minutes to make a list of the top ten things most important to you in your life.
Where is God (truthfully) on your list?