How to feel accepted

We claim  here on For His Glory that acceptance is  mankind’s greatest need. We are all born with it.  In fact none of us can function very well in this life without it.  Many of us enjoy acceptance if we’re fortunate enough to grow up in a healthy home and family environment.  Some of us enjoy acceptance in close friendships or business environments.

 Then there are those without the benefit of healthy families or relationships. Consequently acceptance is often lacking in their lives. They still need  to feel acceptance, but in order to gain it they feel the need to manufacture it themselves.  This is acceptance by self effort. It doesn’t work and often leaves the person feeling frustrated and more unacceptable.

 One way we try to force acceptance is with our appearance. They think if they dress the part   and wear the right clothes  and impress people with their outside appearance they’ll be accepted.

 Some try to gain acceptance with their behavior.  They think if they follow all the social conventions and go to all the right parties and act with social norms they’ll gain acceptance.

Some have  family heritages or business success they can flaunt to make  them appear acceptable.

Unfortunately all these things we do with self effort do not work.

We find are acceptance, needs and self-image met only in God. This is the person God accepts.  In God is the only place we can find who acceptance. And God’s acceptance is true, unconditional and eternal.

What do you need?

If we are going to understand who we really are–our real identity, we need to go back  to the very beginning. Everyone of us was born with two innate needs.: a) a need to feel loved  and accepted, and b) a need to feel a sense of worth and value.

Once you discover that we have these two innate  needs,  figuring out how to meet them becomes the motivation for how we’re going to do just about everything else in life. Our value system,  our priorities, our character, our life choices, and our personality will all have their roots and how those two leaves met

Let’s see, we can get married and hope our spouses love us and care for us. We can work real hard at our jobs¬† and put in extra hours and hope our bosses will accept us and tell us we’re worthy and are a valuable employee.

The truth is nothing we can do ourselves is going to meet any of the innate needs we have,  or any other need in life. Those innate needs are gifts to us from God. Not only did he create us with those needs but God is the only one who can meet them

We can fall in love, be in love,  love others be loved, feel like we’re in love, we can be married for 50 years but  none of those things guarantee real love.

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