If we are going to understand who we really are–our real identity, we need to go back to the very beginning. Everyone of us was born with two innate needs.: a) a need to feel loved and accepted, and b) a need to feel a sense of worth and value.
Once you discover that we have these two innate needs, figuring out how to meet them becomes the motivation for how we’re going to do just about everything else in life. Our value system, our priorities, our character, our life choices, and our personality will all have their roots and how those two leaves met
Let’s see, we can get married and hope our spouses love us and care for us. We can work real hard at our jobs and put in extra hours and hope our bosses will accept us and tell us we’re worthy and are a valuable employee.
The truth is nothing we can do ourselves is going to meet any of the innate needs we have, or any other need in life. Those innate needs are gifts to us from God. Not only did he create us with those needs but God is the only one who can meet them
We can fall in love, be in love, love others be loved, feel like we’re in love, we can be married for 50 years but none of those things guarantee real love.