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Our greatest need of all

 in a previous post we said our two greatest needs are love and acceptance and work and value you probably noticed I mentioned four needs,  but we lumped  love and acceptance together   and worth and valiue together. But (in this writer’s opinion), acceptance is the greatest of all our needs by a country mile.

Acceptance is the nucleus of all our relationships, from the most intimate of marital relationships to our acquaintances on  the fringes of our sphere of influence.. 

As a curious adolescent teenage boy I craved my dad’s acceptance. I don’t believe I ever got it. There were isolated  incidence where he showed pride in some accomplishment of mine that I took as acceptance but those times were few and far between. Our relationship was adversarial until after I’d become a father myself.

My friend Daniel (Webster) describes acceptance as a “state of being desired or wanted, belonging, or having worth.” if we don’t feel acceptance in our lives, we may try to find it  in a gang or a cult. We may seek acceptance in unsavory places or with unsavory people or social outcasts–anywhere or with anyone who engenders those feelings that make us feel desired or gives us a sense of belonging no matter how toxic or unhealthy the relationship,.

My friend Daniel (Webster) describes acceptance as a “state of being desired or wanted, belonging, or having worth.” if we don’t feel acceptance in our lives, we may try find it  in a gang or a cult. We may seek acceptance in unsavory places or with unsavory people or social outcasts–anywhere or with anyone who engenders those feelings that make us feel desired or gives us a sense of belonging no matter how toxic,unhealthy, or harmful the relationship is.

Feelings of acceptance from friends and loved ones is central to our true identity in Christ.  Feeling truly accepted by Christ and accepting others as Christ sees them are essential for knowing and living out of our true identity in Christ.

More on acceptance in future posts.

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What do you need?

If we are going to understand who we really are–our real identity, we need to go back  to the very beginning. Everyone of us was born with two innate needs.: a) a need to feel loved  and accepted, and b) a need to feel a sense of worth and value.

Once you discover that we have these two innate  needs,  figuring out how to meet them becomes the motivation for how we’re going to do just about everything else in life. Our value system,  our priorities, our character, our life choices, and our personality will all have their roots and how those two leaves met

Let’s see, we can get married and hope our spouses love us and care for us. We can work real hard at our jobs  and put in extra hours and hope our bosses will accept us and tell us we’re worthy and are a valuable employee.

The truth is nothing we can do ourselves is going to meet any of the innate needs we have,  or any other need in life. Those innate needs are gifts to us from God. Not only did he create us with those needs but God is the only one who can meet them

We can fall in love, be in love,  love others be loved, feel like we’re in love, we can be married for 50 years but  none of those things guarantee real love.