Psychologists and psychiatrists today generally agree that forgiveness is a conscious, deliberate decision to release feelings of resentment or vengeance or anger toward a person or group who has harmed you, regardless of whether they actually deserve your forgiveness.
Dr Tony Evans in his book Detours divides forgiveness into two categories: unilateral and transnational. If we forgive someone unilaterally we don’t expect a response. We forgive and forget. That doesn’t mean we were not impacted by the or words by the ocean we are forgiving; it just means we are no longer allowing What they said or did to take up residence in our minds and thoughts.
If you choose transnational forgiveness you will try to reconcile the relationship with the person whose actions or words caused you to harbor resentment and unforgiveness.